Alright, this may be long, so don't say I didn't warn you.

Okay, real quick. The talent agency thing was just way too expesive and I just hate cameras too much. No, lemme rephrase that. I love cameras ... as long as I'm the one taking the picture. I hate being in the picture. And over time, altogether it would have cost me more than a new Hyundai.

Alright, now on to my ex situation. I haven't spoken to Randy since sometime in the middle of '05 so it's been close to 3 years since we've talked. His 21st birthday was on the 15th of this month so I text messaged his grandfather {the only number I still had on record} asking to wish Randy a happy early 21st birthday. I left it announymous, but I forgot to block my number before I sent it. {I don't even know if you can do that with a text message, but I wasn't thinking anyway}

I had forgotten about it till a few days later when he called me. I denied knowing him at first and the call ended. I should have just left it at that, but the dejection in his voice when I denied knowledge of him made me call back. That was the only time I called him. Other than that, he was the one calling me.

About a week later, he was still calling me every day. It was getting to the point where I didn't want to really talk to him anymore. I had nothing to say to him. And the shock of finding out he had two kids had just gotten me so tongue-tied that I couldn't think of anything else. So I was trying to think of a way to get him to stop calling me without flat out saying "stop calling me," but I'm not good at that kind of thing so I decided to just play it out till he got sick of calling me.

Well, last Friday night, he called me while I was at work. I talked to him for a bit and I started asking questions. Questions that were pulling at my curiosity. I wanted to know if he and the mother of his children had planned their kids, if they had planned on marriage and why he had full custody of both kids. I found out they had planned the first child {an 18month old girl}, but had not planned the second child {a 3 month old boy.} I also found out the reason he has custody is due to abuse on the mother's part.

I also found out that they had planned the kid, but not a marriage. That confused me a little and I told him that I didn't understand why you'd plan to have children, but not to get married. I also knew that talking about the mother of his children was a sore subject for him, but I let my curiosity get ahold of me.

Finally it pushed him over the edge and he wanted to end the phone call. I could tell he was pissed and I could also tell he was trying to cover it up.

He hasn't called me since. I hope it stays that way.

Anywho, that's the first installment of my detailed entries. And it'll probably be the longest. I'll write again tomorrow.

Aw, that wasn't long.
It was a quick read. Anyhoo, your ex seems... conflicted. Did he explain why he wanted a kid and not a marriage?
» Dilated on 2007-12-24 10:45:40

Yeah, like Dilated said, that wasn't really a MONSTER post. :P

Maybe they wanted kids but didn't feel ready to get married yet, I dunno.
» randomjunk on 2007-12-24 04:43:08

No, not jaywalking, there's no sidewalk/crosswalk/any of that in the area.
» ikimashokie on 2007-12-25 12:04:06

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